Life isn’t the way it’s portrayed in movies and photographs. It’s not perfect, and sometimes it’s painful to accept what you cannot change. As a photographer, I’ve been in the presence of many delightful moments from births to marriages. However, there is something to be said about the grief that we’ll all experience at some point in this life. With the loss of a loved one even the biggest celebrations in life are hindered with a thought and awareness that someone is missing. Even the best times are achingly incomplete.
Traditionally, the father plays an essential role on his daughter’s wedding day and in some cases may even officiate the ceremony. The father-daughter dance, toast, and sometimes even host are some of the responsibilities of the bride’s father. It can become excruciatingly painful to find someone that’ll represent that role on your special day, and at the same time have things run smoothly without drawing too much attention to moments that may make you vulnerable.
My bride and friend Lacie found herself planning the beginning and closing of a chapter; a wedding and funeral. Her father Randy Roberts passed away from cancer shortly after she became engaged. Wedding planning after losing a loved one can be a rough reminder of their absence. Some couples decide on doing without the remembrance of a loved one all together as it has the potential to reopen deep wounds and remind them of where their loved one is supposed to be. It’s okay to feel sad and even cry though it’s one of the happiest days of your life.
Lacie, I was so inspired by the many ways you chose to remember your father. Here’s to you, Randy, and all the daddy’s girls.
Special thanks to Shauna for gifting the handkerchief on behalf of Lacie's father.
Lacie had her father's ring tied to her bouquet and a heart stitched onto her dress from one of his shirts.
"And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away." - Revelation 21:4
Wedding Coordinator: Cheryl with Iron Branding Events
Venue: Zedler Mill
Flowers: Maxine at The Floral Studio